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You’re going to die. These remarkable eye-opening truths you need to hear about your life is a reminder to live more authentically.

You, me, and everything else in between. I don’t say this because I have some sick fixation with death.

But it’s the truth; subsequently, a truth that I also battle.

In all honesty, some moments it brings me great relief because it’s something that we all share, and at some point in our lives, the things we gave a crap about, we won’t have to anymore.

The things that we cared so much about that obstructed our happiness. It’s liberating to know that in the end much of it doesn’t matter.

Other times, it freaks me out. Mostly because there’s so much of this living that I adore.

Like books, people, hiking views, and chocolate chip cookies, etc. However, there is an end, and we don’t know when that is.

Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. ― Steve Jobs

Even as I write this, I can’t help to feel a knot in my stomach. However, we can’t ignore it anymore because this is the only life that we have.

Remarkable Eye-Opening Truths You Need to Hear About Your Life

The top regret of the dying is, “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”

When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it’s easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled.

Sitting in a hotel room in San Juan, Puerto Rico, I took this picture, and I thought to myself, “Decide. Go. Never wonder.”

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Some people allow life to carry them like a limp fish through the ocean. We spend more time fantasizing about our dreams and wishes and less time creating a plan of action to turn them into a reality.

I’ve done it.

A few months before visiting Puerto Rico, I decided to teach English in Thailand. Many people have asked me the same three questions: why Thailand, why teaching, and why now?

Why now?

At the age of 17, I became a mom to a beautiful boy. Fast forward 18 years later, he’s a man entering college.

I thought to myself, “Wow where the hell did the time go and what the hell did I do with it?”

Be that as it may, I’ll be a 35-year-old empty nester. That blew my mind! I reminisced about juggling school, jobs, babysitters (or lack of) and trying to understand my 20’s.

You ever think to yourself; when this happens then I’ll be able to do x, y, z? Why do we do that to ourselves?

Because we are fearful and we tell ourselves this lie: that we have time. These remarkable eye-opening truths you need to hear about your life is all the reason to do the things you’ve been waiting to do.

An article by Express reported, “Not to wait until you’re dying to make meaning of your life. The dying know they’re running out of time, but there’s nothing stopping us from acting with the same urgency they feel. Become who you want while you can enjoy it, whether you’re 25, 45 or 65.”

At first, I thought great more time to become a rock star real estate agent, however, that’s a lie that I told myself. If it didn’t happen now, it’s because I had zero passion for it.

Subsequently, I had a profoundly insightful conversation with a woman I dated at the time.

She said, “You’ve been a parent since you were 16. You’ve never lived alone. You’ve always cared for someone else. The time has come for you to explore yourself and the world.”

Moreover, hearing those words made me restive. I had student loan debts. There’s the car. This. And. That. Etcetera. Is this an irresponsible decision? It felt like it. I wondered who I would become if I did this.

I completed the interview process to teach abroad. Got accepted. Then my father passed away unexpectedly.

My father is the definition of a work martyr. It brought him joy. He could outwork anyone with pride. As a matter of fact, he nearly worked himself to death.

Literally. My father didn’t enjoy the fruits of his labor conversely when he passed; he just finished an almost 24-hour shift.

My father planned every aspect of his life. Even more saddened that he didn’t get the chance to live the future that he planned.

Another regret of the dying, “I wished I didn’t work so hard.” We miss so much when we do.

At that moment I knew two truths: life is impermanent, and the future doesn’t exist.

“Anyone who has lost something they thought was theirs forever finally comes to realise that nothing really belongs to them.” ― Paulo Coelho

Why Thailand?

At first going to teach in Mexico intrigued me. It felt close to home. Again, the same woman said, “You can go to Mexico anytime, why not travel to the other side of the Earth?” I picked Mexico out of fear.

There goes that knot again. I’ve learned, if something scares you, do it.

Here are the five reasons why I chose Thailand:

1) The adventure. The furthest I have ever been.
2) It’s the 5th friendliest country.
3) It’s beautiful.
4) Buddhism. I’ve been exploring my spirituality and Buddhism is currently resonating with me.
5) I love Thai food. Is that shallow of me?

Why did I decide to teach versus travel? 

First, I have a background in teaching. I once taught middle schoolers Spoken Word at an after school writing and literacy program. I loved it.

Second, as a social worker, I’ve taught workshops. I loved that too.

Teaching and traveling felt right. Meaning creates joy in our lives. I’ve learned enough about myself that if what I do isn’t bringing meaning into my life, it isn’t something that I can continue doing.

Furthermore, I wanted to travel but with a purpose because I wanted to reconnect with humanity. I unexpectedly left an exhausting career as a social worker.

However, despite leaving that career, inside of my soul always screams: be of service.

“Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry – all forms of fear – are caused by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of non-forgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence.” ― Eckhart Tolle

That is to say, life isn’t permanent. The present is all that exists. The future is great to aspire to, but it isn’t where we live. We cannot be possessed by the future or the past.

The past holds us like caged animals. We can envision the possibilities of the present. However, the bars that lock us in obstruct our views.

Still, the past is out of our hands and we sure as hell don’t control the future. I’m challenging you to learn to surrender and resist less.

Never wonder about your life. Again, if there is something that is pulling you: I urge you to do it. Now.

Waiting is equivalent to a slow death.

Decide. Go. Do. Never wonder.

  • andnaps
    August 4, 2016

    Sounds incredible, good luck with your big move!!

    • Fran
      andnaps
      October 2, 2016

      Thank you Andnaps I appreciate the encouragement!

  • Tiesha
    November 11, 2016

    I love this post. I feel inspired to do the things I’ve thought, hoped, and dreamed about. Thanks and Best wishes on your journey!

    • Fran
      Tiesha
      November 11, 2016

      Thank you, Tiesha for your loving post. I encourage you to never wonder about what can be and think creatively on how to bring all that you’ve ever wanted into existence. You’re very welcome and thank you for reading!

  • Nubia
    November 12, 2016

    I am extremely excited and happy for you. I contemplate when I plan on leaving the U.S. all the time and to have friends like you who just get up and do it. I’m grateful for you sharing your journey. It motivates me to get to it and put my wheels in motion. Big hugs!

    • Fran
      Nubia
      November 14, 2016

      Thank you Nubia! Don’t wait too long, once you do the research you will find it is doable. However you can get in, just get in! Big hugs my friend!

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